Dear Sexhibitch, Does the withdrawal method work at all? Is ‘pulling out’ truly as unreliable and dicey as it’s made out to be, or was that just something we were told to scare us off having unprotected sex as teenagers?
The withdrawal method – AKA ‘coitus interruptus’ or ‘pulling out’ – really puts the ‘risky’ in ‘frisky’, I’m afraid. For a start, Planned Parenthood figures show that up to 27 out of every 100 women who rely upon this process will become pregnant every year, and of course, it doesn’t protect you from sexually transmitted infections – you’ll need to use Dick Depps (rubber Johnnies!) for that.
However, if you’re in a committed, trusting, long-term relationship, where getting up the duff unplanned perhaps wouldn’t be a complete catastrophic disaster; and if both of you have been tested for STIs and received a clean bill of health; then there are ways you can make the withdrawal method more reliable.
If you stick to the following rules, further Planned Parenthood studies suggest you can lower your risk of pregnancy to 4% – but you have to be extremely rigorous. The withdrawal method ain’t for Slack Jacks or Lazy Maisies. If you’re gonna be in it (‘it’ being your vagina without protection), then you need to be on it.
Women must track their menstrual and ovulation cycles and avoid penetrative sex on their most fertile days – the times when a ripened egg has just been released from one of the ovaries, and moves into the fallopian tube.
Knowing when this has happened involves monitoring patterns in your body temperature and cervical mucus, and keeping a precise calendar of when you menstruate – ask your GP for personalised advice. It’s a heck of a lot easier to do if your periods are regular, but it takes a lot of dedicated time and effort in any case. It can be quite intriguing to get to know your innards like this, though.
There are period tracker and ovulation monitoring apps you can get to help you stay aware of what your ladyparts are up to from moment to moment, such as Kindara and My Days. Be aware, though, that many of these are designed to help women who want to have sproglets to conceive, not for ladies who do not want to plant a miniature human in their womb!
For their part, men must have enough self-control and awareness of their own bodies to be able to know when they’re about to cum, and withdraw in good time to ensure they slam-dunk their spunk somewhere far, far away from the foof. If your chap is ever prone to premature ejaculation, the withdrawal method is NOT a good option. No-diddly-no-nope.
The method will never be 100% dependable anyway, because there can be enough sperm in a man’s pre-cum – the liquid that comes out of his penis before he ejaculates – to fertilise an egg and make a baby. Whenever there’s a penis, there may be seed – so proceed with extreme caution.
To conclude: the pull-out method is definitely not one to use with someone you’ve just pulled. There are ways to make it more reliable – but you have to put in serious effort before you put in the peen.
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